I always enjoy your articles. I don't think your two goals are mutually exclusive.

"Anyone who performs their prescribed duties without attachment to the results is the true yogi and sannyasi. You cannot achieve complete renunciation by giving up your prescribed duties or by becoming physically inactive." Bhagavad Gita 6.1

Prescribed duties here includes service to family and friends, to society more broadly. So, to me it looks like you're on the right track, you haven't made a mistake.

Of course you could try letting your underarm air grow to remind you of this profound spiritual truth ;)